Trying to determine what’s “normal” and what could be a cause for concern can be tricky in young children, especially when it comes to language skills. Fortunately, there are certain clues you can use as a guide.
All parents know that as the times change, the suggestions for what is best for children change as well – car seat safety, medicine, discipline – one thing that has always remained true, though, is that children benefit from physical activity and sports. Exercise and participation are important for everyone, especially developing minds and bodies. Participation in sports and physical activities offer many benefits for children including: improving health and fitness, learning how to deal with adversity, and exposure working with a team. So it only makes sense that a common question among parents is, “Why should children play sports?” Dr. Boney of Scottsdale Pediatric Behavioral Services has answers.
Many parents have questions about whether it’s good for their children to be involved in sports. It’s a very common one, both from parents of special needs children and those who are high functioning with some sort of behavioral issues. Having a background that includes sports psychology and a passion for sports, Dr. Boney sees a great deal of value for children through sports.
There are things that can be learned while participating in sports that can never be learned in a classroom or anywhere else, which is why Dr. Boney always encourages parents to consider having their children be involved in sports. Through team sports, skill sets can be developed in a way that is difficult to duplicate in other activities, including socialization and character development skills. These are critical life skills that will later be useful in the workforce and all other areas of life. Some of these include:
It is difficult, if not impossible, to imagine it not being helpful and appropriate for a child to be exposed to these skills. It is definitely Dr. Boney’s belief that children should be encouraged to participate in sports. Team sports, in particular. Not all sports are team sports and, while individual sports have their benefits, it is the socialization aspect that make team sports such a beneficial choice for children.
Team sports should be an ego and self-esteem boosting activity. From a clinical perspective, a confident kid who is able to self-regulate and manage their behavior is typically a healthy, happy child. Current arguments that children today have too high of a self-concept and are complimented too much aside, in Dr. Boney’s opinion, it is never a bad thing for a child to have a healthy, well-developed sense of self and confidence about the skills they have, which is something that team sport participation can enhance. This helps them face adversity, manage stress and overcome perceived obstacles, which is what life is all about.
Sports are absolutely a way to help children develop certain skills, though there are certain things you can do to maximize their gains. While many are under the impression that children are the ones that have to put in the work, a lot of the benefits come from active parent participation, as well.
Do your research when selecting a league for your child. The younger the child the better it might be to select a league that focuses on participation and character development over competition. As the child gains skills and increases confidence, the level of competition can be revisited.
Ask other parents about their experiences with the league and coaches. Word of mouth referrals can be extremely helpful. Did their kids enjoy going to practice and playing in the games? Learn from their experience.
Meet the coaches and make sure they are experienced and trained in working with children the same age and maturity level as yours. Many parents take on the role of coach and, while some can be really good, many are not. It takes special skills and perspective to be effective coaching young children. Ask about training, certifications and credentialing by the league.
Find a sport and a league that will allow your child to have a healthy schedule balance. In addition to time spent practicing and at games, there should be time to hang out with friends and family. A schedule that creates constant fatigue, injuries, and feelings of being burnt out is not balanced.
Pick some target behaviors to work on through the sport. These could be following the coach’s directions, having a positive attitude after a loss or talking to at least three teammates during a practice. Your child should be aware of the things that you are trying to help them build on. This also emphasizes things besides just winning.
Discuss and support the life lessons of the sport. Have conversations with your child about learning from losses, trying hard in the face of adversity and setting and achieving goals. Processing these critical life lessons with your child before, as well as after they happen, reinforces their importance. It is especially important to do this preventatively and not just in response to a tough loss or failure.
Make the primary focus of the sport be on fun and skill improvement. Not on winning. There are many factors that affect whether a team wins or not and they are outside of the control of your child. Children should not be put in a position to get frustrated by things that are not within their control. Improving skills, having fun and making progress on their goals should be the real emphasis.
Be a great example as a parent. Always be positive. Show respect toward the coaches and the officials, whether your child’s team wins or loses. Don’t make excuses. Don’t analyze the parts of your child’s performance that were negative. Always look for the positive. Look for things to praise and reinforce. Make sure that the experience is a good one for them. Remember, the goal is to teach your child that sports are valuable beyond just winning or losing and that they are gaining skills that are helpful and unique to that experience.
Utilizing evidence based practices and the scientific principles of Applied Behavior Analysis, the Scottsdale Pediatric Behavioral Services team provides assessment, treatment, and consultation for a wide range of behavioral issues. We work with a variety of children, families, schools, hospitals, mental health agencies, and local community organizations to provide these services. If you’re still asking yourself, “Why should children play sports?” or would like more information about any of the services offered by our team, please feel free to contact us by phone at 480.410.4040, email us at info@scottsdalepbs.com.
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